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Thursday, 4 July 2013
ARE YOU YOUR BEST FRIEND'S BEST FRIEND?
Before we begin with this topic, there is something we must get out of the way. It is the reality that whether you agree to come to terms with it or not, your best friend could have another as a best friend and could also be the best friend to many others. That being said, where does that leave you?
The word "friend" has lost its special meaning in recent times as it has taken on new meanings over time especially in today's world. With the advent of social media networks like facebook amongst others, the word has acquired new and ordinary meanings which pales in significance to its original meaning.
A new definition is stated thus as:
"A person associated with someone as a contact on a social networking site. "We've never met but we are facebook friends."
I had to laugh when I saw this!
Another definition of friendship is a person who gives assistance; a patron; a supporter; a person who is not hostile; members of the same nation, party, religious group. etc
Moving on to coinages popular among the younger generation, we now have phrases like friends with benefits, friend zone, fair-weather friends, bestie, etc. It is sad to note that the effects of these new coinages is a complete deviation from the original notion of friendship.
Having gone through a myriad of definitions, the most complete definition that encapsulates the concept of friendship is;
A person whom one knows or whom one is attached to with whom one has or shares a bond of mutual affection or esteem, typically exclusive of family or sexual relations.
The basic elements of friendship are listed thus;
- a friend is someone you know personally.
- a friend is someone you respect and appreciate greatly.
- a friend is someone you support and assist unflinchingly when necessary.
- such friend is no blood relation or sexual partner of yours.
And, the most important of all;
- a friend is someone who feels the exact same way about you as listed above. In other words, the feeling is mutual.
When I think of the above listed characteristics, my model is David and Jonathan. For the benefit of our non-Bible reading readers, David was the son of Jesse, a farm boy who was anointed King of Israel during the subsistence of the reign of King Saul of Israel; Jonathan was the first born son of King Saul, a prince and heir apparent to the throne of Israel, had David not been chosen by God.
The Bible records in 1 Samuel 18:1 that,
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I do not agree that the word "friend" has lost its meaning which u attribute to the developments of our generation such as social media. I however believe that we grew up and out of the definition of "friend" as it should be because even in this generation with all the social media, children still embody and exhibit the meaning of "friend". Through no fault of ours, by experiences some good some bad, we learn to hand pick our friends or in some extreme cases, we learn do do without friends all together. It is unfortunate that the word friend has been amended, to include all sorts such as friends with benefits. But I still believe that the word "friend" has not lost its meaning. It is still practiced by people who have not lost their innocence.
ReplyDeleteWhat then happens when innocence is lost, because that's inevitable?
DeleteIn Naija context "who fit help man with contract na him be him friend".
ReplyDeleteLol. Na so we see am now oh. No permanent friendships, only permanent interests
DeleteI totally agree with you. My best friend might actually have someone who is her best friend. However true friends are hard to find so if you spot one, kindly keep that person.
ReplyDeleteMy sentiments exactly!
DeleteI have grown to realize that there really are no 'best friends'. However, this is an excellent write-up, ..as alwayz.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot!
DeleteI don't do best friend. 'Very good/dear friends' is fine by me. I don't have that one special friend. Naaaah. NK
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